How To Prepare For Anal Sex
Anal douching isn't something we talk about much in our community and we aren't given many opportunities to learn about it. My high school coach taught sex ed. He said Keep it in your pants, boys. Don't be a rude top and just shove the nozzle of an enema bulb or nozzle of a shower shot up your butt without getting your butt ready first. Inner sphincter is about one and half inch inside (you can feel it when you insert finger inside and press against wall) and this one is a lot harder control.
The biggest fear people have about anal sex is to get dirty. The very important thing with any kind of sex is to feel comfortable with your - and your partner's - body and bodily fluids as they are going to be involved always. Our culture has stigmatized anal penetration and in doing so, scared off hordes of people who might be interested in it. As of late, the media (specifically TV) has loudly been making the case for the pleasures and positive benefits of anal sex.
Once you've done this and gotten used to the sensation of something entering your butt, then anal sex should be a lot easier for you once you get ready to do it with a guy. This anal sex position is particularly good if you have a foot fetish as it means that your man can pay a lot of attention to your feet with both his hands and mouth.
Not until recently did I hear from a friend who likes to be a bottom that the anus and rectum are a sex organ. 6. Always stretch open your hole and massage your rectum with your fingers or a dildo a few minutes before sex to allow any trace amounts of water to purge.
If you've had a healthy bowel movement that day and you do a little external wash up (maybe put your finger inside your anus a little way while your washing), there shouldn't be more than minute fecal matter in your rectum. According to him, it would feel really good,†or at least that's what his male friends had told him based on their girlfriends' responses to anal sex.
Anal douching prior to sexual activity can help ease partners stress about cleanliness. The only way you're going to avoid pain and experience pleasure is to control the way your partner's penis goes in and out of you. My partner and I started out by using his finger while in doggie style, oral or just done there playing with me. But I also during play with myself, would use my finger to play around.
A good bath will clean up the exterior of your booty enough for anal sex to be bacteria free — at least on the outside. Silicone lube is messy and stays slick forever, meaning it can sometimes present clean-up problems (avoid touching door handles), but it works fine with latex and non-latex condoms and keeps your ass lubed up longer than water-based lube.
I started my career by syndicating a sex and relationships column all over the country and I sort of became known as the East Coast Dan Savage.†I then went on to write my first gay sex book, Men Are Pigs But We Love Bacon (Kensington). Some of this sounds pretty intense, but if anal sex is something you're curious about and you feel comfortable doing it, there's no reason it preparing for anal sex can't be a fun and pleasurable time.
Anal sex can be a very pleasurable and exciting experience for both partners, if done properly, and should never be done without each partner's consent. The external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive places on the human body. Having vaginal sex or getting an orgasm in beforehand also seems to help people relax back there too.
This anal douche has a slim tip for a simple cleansing and a beaded tip for a more enjoyable cleansing experience. Deep cleaning is not without its health risks (more so than cleaning your ass with an enema) but it gets me better prepared for hours of hard sex, ass play with big toys, and fisting.